I have learned a lot about myself and the world in the last two years since Election Day 2016. When I actually reflect on what has changed in my life, I’m surprised. Some negative, but mostly positive. It seems like watching the election results came in a hundred years ago, but it also feels like we have a hundred years left in the current administration. It seemed like a good time to do a little reflection.
I show up more often.
I’ve always liked to help out when I can, but I’ve recognized that there is a lot more I can do. This year, I’ve helped with postcards and shown up at fundraisers and events for candidates. I’ve stopped and asked questions and voiced support at events. I’ve been inspired to try out new volunteer opportunities in the community. And I think there is still so much more I can do and want to keep expanding my reach.
I’m more afraid.
I grew up learning that girls could do anything boys can do. I’m seeing more often now that is not true and it’s also really terrifying to be a female. My rights can be taken away with a simple vote by a group of old men. Once you add in all the brutal #metoo stories that are making their way out into the light, you’ve got a real shitty situation for women. And don’t even get me started on the wage gap.
I read more.
I have read way more books in the last two years than ever before. Many of them are fiction and funny and happy. On the other hand, I’ve read some that are fascinating, real-life thoughts and stories to help me expand my viewpoints and grow. I’ve read more about religions, science, politics, refugees and families. This book gave me advice on how to talk to others and understand different points of view. This story helped open my eyes to the refugee crisis around the world. For a different perspective on this country we live in, I read this one from the heart of the coal region and this one about a family so very different from mine.
I’m more focused on listening.
I have learned how extremely frustrating it is to not be heard. When my opinion differs from someone else’s, I found myself prepping my next argument while they were talking instead of listening. It’s a work in progress, but something that I really want to get better at. I’m a loud talker and I do a lot of it, but I really want to be great at the other side of a conversation. Admitting you have a problem is the first step, right?
I have more anger.
It sucks to admit this because I’m wired as an optimist, but there have been so many things that bring me rage. I have to practice deep breaths often in my day to day life.
I pay attention.
I used to check headlines once a week or so. My routines have changed quite a bit. I get two email newsletters each morning – the Skimm and Need2Know. I have a couple digital subscriptions. There are podcasts I listen to every week. I watch C-SPAN whenever there is a vote happening in the Senate. I research politicians from other states. I ask questions when I don’t understand something. I share the things I find interesting with others.
I’ve become more grateful.
The more I open my eyes, the more I feel extremely lucky and grateful. It is my responsibility to use my position in the world to speak up for others and be an advocate. I learn the importance of that with every new headline. I have a job, a great support system, my health and an education.
So what’s next? Election Day 2018!
Let your anger, fear or frustration fuel your passion to get to the polls. Remember that you have a voice that can shape the future and you should get out and be heard. See the seven steps below and best of luck friends.
